Jilimjuon Bunton ko nan Self-Love

Deborah Khoshaba, Psy.D., translated by Janerose Ralpho

Self-love ej ilo am komman e juon men ejjab ilo an emman am mour.

Self-love ej juon naan eo im ekka an armej kojerbal e raan kein im rej letoletak ilo ien ko rej bwebwenato: "Kwoj aikuj kolap lak am yokwe eok make." "Etke kwojjab yokwe eok make?" "Ne kwon kwar yokwe eok make, eban kar walok endrein nan eok." "Kwoban yokwe bar juon armej nan ne kwonij yokwe eok mokta." Erkein ej jet ian naa in self-love ko jej lilak nan ro jet ak kwalok kilen bwe en lap lak an emman am mour.


Self-love ellukun aurok bwe en emman am mour. E jelot won eo kwonij katlet bwe en mottam, armej rot kwoj konan bwe ro ilo jikin jerbal eo am ren loe eok bwe kwon, im ta ko kwoj komman i kon burobolom ko ilo mour eo am. Ellukun aurok nan ejmour eo am ke i konan bwe kwon jela kilen komman e men kein ilo mour eo am.

Ta in self-love?

Ej ke juon men kwomaron boke ilo juon makeover nan kakomanman lak aibojuoj eo am ak jet nuknuk kaal? Kwomaron ke boke ne kwonij riit juon men eo im enij jelot ro jet? Akko, juon bed eo im ej kab ejaak enij ke komman bwe en lap lak am yokwe eok make? Uak in aolepen kajjitok kein ej Jaab. Mekarta men kein renij komman menin an emman am mour im kamonono ki eok, eban edroklok self-love ilo am komman i activity kein.


Self-love ejjab bwe en emman wot am mour. Ej ne kwonij monono ippem make kon edroklok ko im rej jen menko jej komman i nan komanman lak edrok ko ilo koj make, lemnak ko ad, im jetob eo ad. Self-love ellukun kajoor; ej edroklok ilo men ko jej komman i im ej karitto lak kolmenlak ijon eo ad. Ne jej komman i menko im ej kolaplak self-love ilo koj, jenij jinoe monono kon mojno ko ad borainwot kajoor ko ad, enij drik lak ad kameleleiki bwod ko ad, tiriamo kon koj make einwot ke koj armej im jej bikot wot wunin mour, ilo ad lemnak kon mour ko ad im aurok in, im kotmene bwe enij emman mour ilo men ko jej komman i.

7-step wuno in self-love

  1. Kwon lemnak kon ro jet. Armej ro im elap self-love eo ipper rejela lak ta ko rej lemnak i, enjaki, im konan. Rekanoj in jela won er im komman ekar nan jelak lak ijon eo e bed ipper, ijelakin aer komman i men ko armej rej konan bwe ren komman i nan er. 
  2. Komman i menko kwoj aikuj i im enjab menk kwoj konan. Kwonij yokwe eok make ne kwonij el lak jen menko im renij komman bwe en emman am mour im kamonono ki eok nan ta ko kwoj aikuj i bwe kwon kajoor wot, tomak ilo eok make, im wonmaanlok wot kon mour ne am, ijjelokin. Ilo am lemnak wot kon ta eo kwoj aikuj i, kwoj el lak jen menko ekka am komman i im rej komman menin aer illu ippem, komman menin am bed ilo menko an jemaan, im kadriklak self-love eo ilo kwe.
  3. Kwon katak wot kilen self-care. Enij lap lak am yokwe eok make, ne enij emman lak am lale ta ko elap am aikuj i. Armej ro im elap self-love eo ipper elap lak aer lale er make aolep raaan ilo aer komman i activity ko emman nan ejmour eo aer, einwot am ronjake kajojo ainikien ko, exercise, un awa in kiki, am bed ippen ro jet im konono ipper. 
  4. Komman jonan ak jonak ko. Enij laplak am yokwe eok make ne kwonij komman limit ak ba jaab nan jerbal, yokwe, ak activity ko elap aer kamokmok ak kakkure enbwinim, kolmenlak ijon eo am, im jetob eo am, ak enana an kwalok kon eok.
  5. Kojparok eok make. Bokwaj armej ro rekkar nan mour eo am. Illukun yokwe naan ne frenemies im ikar katok jen client ro ao. Emman melele in naan in ke armej ro im rej “mottam” im rej monono ne kwoj metak im ne ej jako juon men ippem ijelakin aer monono ippem ilo ien am monono im ilo kotobar ko am. Lemnak eo ao nan kwe enin: Kwon julak i! Ejabwe ien ilo mour ne am nan am jolok ien ko am ippen armej ro im rekonan bok meram eo jen kwe im ej ba, "Illukun yokwe e make im mour e ao."Enij lap lak am yokwe im kautiej eok make.
  6. Jolok am bwod ippem make. Koj armej jemaron kaben menko nan koj make. Men eo e nana ilo ad kile bwod ko ilo menko jej komman i ej ne elap ad kaje koj make kon bwod ko jekar komman i ilo ad katak im edoklok. Kwoj aikuj jela bwe kwe armej (im kwon jela bwe elon ien kwonij komman bwod), mokta jen am lukun nej yokwe eok make. Kwon katak kilen am jab lukun illu ippem make ne kwoj komman bwod. Kememej, ejelok bwod, ne kwar katak im edoklok jen bwod ko am; elon wot katak ko jekar katak kaki.
  7. En wor token am mour. Enij lap lak am bok im yokwe eok make, jekdron ta eo ej walok ilo mour eo am, ne kwoj mour kon ewor wun im kotobar. Kwomaron jab lukun jela ta wunin mour eo am ilo torein. Ak ne kwoj konan mour juon mour eo emman ewa mourur, kwonij komman i kalet ko im renij jiban wunin am, im kwonij monono ippem make ne kwonij tobar katobar in am. Enij lap lak am yokwe eok make ne kwonij loe am tobar i men kein kwar katobar i. Kwoj aikuj jinoe komman i men kein, bwe kwon maron tobar. 


Ne kwonij kalet juon ak ruo ian self-love action kein im jerbal i, enij jino an lap lak am bok im yokwe eok make. Kwon mok lemnak ewi jonan am nej monono kon eok make ilo am nej koman e seven-steps to self-love. Mool menin bwe kwonij maron yokwe bar juon armej elap lak jen am yokwe eok make. Ne kwonij komman e aolepen men kein nan self-love im ij kamelele ijin, kwonij kotlak im rojan ro jet bwe ren komman i men kein nan er borainwot. Ne enij lap self-love eo ippem, enij emman lak am bojak nan bed ko remman. Borainwot, kwonij jino am karel armej im ien ko im rej jiban ejmour eo am. 



Original article at Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/get-hardy/201203/seven-step-prescription-self-love

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