New York Ej Aikuij Jiban ko an Jodrikdrik ro nan Kabojrak Bed ko Rekauotata

Kelli Owens jen Teen Vogue, translated by Janerose Ralpho

Ne elaplok ad konono kake, elaplok ad nej jela kake.

Leo jeram ej ba kwon lelok pāājwōt eo am kinke “ejjelok men komiro aikwijin noje jen droon” Enij ba nan kwe k edrik nuknuk kani koj kanoki bwe laddrik ro mettan renij kalemjok kwe. Enij koman keroro kinke enij lomnak koj kattoojoje waiter ilo amiro date. Jekdroon ta konij koman nan e, ejabwe nan e. Jet remaron ba ekalaplap bed en, botaab ej juon wanjonak in bed ko rekauotata.


Eka an bed ko an jodrikdrik ko ioon bed ko rekauotata, unin an Obij an New York State nan Kabojrak Domestic Violence (Joraan) ej jerbal ippen Teen Vogue nan ejaake tools im resources naj kake nan jodrikdrik juon jikin eo ejokane nan bok melele, ien eo ekabatata, jiban. Būrojāāk in naj boktok jodrikdrik bwe ren jemadron nan konono kon bed ko rekauotata.


Research rej kwalok k 80% in jodrikdrik rejela kajen juon armij eo mwe ej bed ilo juon bed eo elap control, botaab bwijin rej mijak in kir: abuse (joraan). Kajjitok eo in: Etke? Juon ot k kain joraan? Rej k kabok uwaak botaab rejjab elolo? Ilo mool, bed eo kauotata ej tok ilo elon kain wawein:


  • Leddrik eo jeram ekar text e kwe 20 kottan ilo juon ien elikin am jab uwaak call eo an kinke koj bed ibben ro mottam. Ej ba nan kwe k edrik laddrik ran mottam bwe enana mwilir. Aelop ien konij kwalok buruom, eban ronjake yuk. Enij jiron eok k elap an iakwe iok im kon an bed ot turum.

  • Armij eo koj date ej ba kwon jilinlak pijan kwe make kinke “emoj aer kar lo mokta lak”. Kolak jab katobrak konaan ko aer k renij jab kenaaan waj. Kolak tin kamoj ijo amro k ej ba enij jilinlak pija ko am nan aelop.

  • Ien eo kar jinon, ekar lewaj aelop an nan kwe. Eniwot elon babbub ilo lojem, im ej kakememej eok kon aelop men kokar lo ilo screen ko. Aliktata, ej walok nan kwe. Botaab aelop et komiro ej kojerbale im an kwalok buruon, juon men eo kauotata ejinoe walok. Komaron jab kile sign eniwot bomb in iakwe, ej eniwot juon armij ej kalbubuki iok kon iakwe nan koman bwe kon kommane nan konaan ko aer. Kin menin, koban lomnak kake aer kajjitok ta won konij bed ibben m eo too in am nej bed ibben ro motaan. Wawein eo eman, ejimwe k?


Aelopen waanjonak kein epidodo ad jab lo kakollen būḷeak in būrōrō, im jab etale abuse eo. Botaab etke jej kijoor kile jet ien?


Ijo ne konij bok jikim. Elikin yio in lal, OPDV enij itotak peḷaakin New York State koman focus group nan bwebwenato nan jodrikdrik kon jimjera, abuse, im ia koj bok melele ko am. Jenij konaan jela ta koj katak im koj konono kake eniwot dating. Elemen am katok kilen am negotiate ilo jimjera eo am? Koj bok message eo am jen ia? 


Dating abuse ej juon laajrak in ṃanit eniwot bijcal, sexual, emotional, im/ak rej kwalok naan ko rejekkar nan bok kajoor im control partner eo am. Dating abuse ejjab discriminate. Enij walok nan jabdrewot armij jekdroon jete am yio, gender, sexual orientation, race, class, jelalokjen, kab kabun eo am. Meke emaron oktak control tactic ilo jabdrewot wawein. kajoor ej juon men eban oktak ilo juon jimjera eo ekauotata. Ejjab kon jabdrewot im ejjab an juon bwod, jekdroon ta partner eo am enij jiron e yuk.


Kwoj expert nan mour eo am kab enjake. Nan kabojrak abuse ikijen dating--im nan lo juon walonlak ilo jimjera eo ewanik, emool, im edreeklok--jenij aikwij jiban ko am. Obij an New York State nan bobrae Prevention of Domestic Violence nej monono kin būrojāāk im rekijoror in ron jen kwe. Nan melele ko relaplak ikijen elemen am naij jiban, itok nan ijo.



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